You asked for ideas on how to move beyond it....

I have found only one way.. to get a handle.. on this.. to talk about it... but that is me.. I am sure... there are other ways...

There is a certain smell.. that my abuser had - his breath.. like no other smell... and when a man started working at my place of employment.. that had "that" smell... it threw me for a loop..

so.. knowing I was going to run into it... I used peppermints... for me to smell while I was working with him...

but.. the smells that come around you from the past.. that are unexpected... well... they still throw me...

you have made me think... I will ask my T...and see what he says....maybe we can figure something out...