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Originally Posted by rdgrad15
Yeah I agree, all of those examples are inappropriate. I think the most common one is saying that you know what it is like since you lost someone too. I think most people do that with the intent to mean well and provide comfort but it can backfire.
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You are right! There is no comfort in that as grief is very subjective and individual. And comparing what someone else felt has zero benefit as it’s never even close to that. “I know how you feel”. “No you don’t”.
Now if someone specifically wants your suggestion on how to deal with grief or asks you how you do certain things or if you have a specific resource to help with grief, then it’s entirely different story. Then it’s appropriate. Otherwise prying or comparing or expressing unwarranted opinions or giving unsolicited advice is making someone else’s grief all about yourself. It’s never ok.