I meant all through marriage. I don’t mean it as a bad thing per se. But I think you were way too nice and accommodating all along since you’ve met him. You are just a very nice person, not a bad thing but I hate people taking advantage of you. Sadly that’s what people like your husband do. He knows you can’t force him. That’s why he does whatever he wants. So that’s why I said don’t be too nice from day one. Not saying be nasty, just not “too nice” and “too accommodating”. Don’t bend backwards. It’s not worth it in a long run