I'm glad your father realizes he has a problem with alcohol & is trying to deal with the issue. I'm sorry to hear about the other issue that's haunting him, Moose72. That's terrible.

My grandfather was a falling down drunk until the day he died. As a child, my father suffered mightily as a result of my grandfather's drinking. Hence, he's an adult child of an alcoholic - which, I'm sure you're aware, comes with a whole galaxy of trust issues, etc. As for me? I'm a recovering alcoholic (over 10 years sober) but my kids had to see me falling down drunk when they were young. Sometimes the tangled web of alcohol abuse weaves itself in strange ways through multiple generations. Horrible stuff. I wish you and your father the best possible outcomes. There's already too much suffering in the world. Hang in there.