The first three months are difficult for the mother as well in that many mothers are sleep deprived. This is especially true if the infant has problems with colicing. A baby completely changes a mother's life and the mother can struggle if the baby is colicy and get frustrated.

My husband tended to be colicy and in order to get him to sleep his mother took him out for a ride in the car. Now they have special seats that vibrate that helps not only with colic but if the baby tends to be restless like my husband. My husband has ADHD and tends to struggle to sit still and is very active. Now this is understood better, but when he was a baby and child growing up ADHD was not recognized.

If you struggled and did not get the attention you needed it doesn't always mean you were not loved. What it tends to mean is the mother simply did not know what to do and got frustrated a lot. Also, it's good to know that when a baby is hungry their stomach does hurt causing them to cry which is all a baby knows how to do to get needs met. So, if you combine the crying to be fed along with the crying from colic, that can become an ongoing challenge for the mother that can get very tiring and frustrating.