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Originally Posted by Have Hope
I am having a major freakout moment - please help. It really hit me hard this afternoon that my husband told me all lies throughout our whole marriage about not being someone who cheats..... when he did and when he is someone who could cheat. I am beside myself with this reality... a reality or web of lies he stood on in our marriage. I cannot tell you how many times I was told he's NOT a cheater....
The massive lie is hard for me to wrap my brain around. It's a kick in the stomach and is a total mind screw. I cannot stomach that I was lied to ALL that time. How do I accept this f'ed up fact?
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Some people only think of cheating as physical act of intimacy. He likely does not consider it cheating because he wasn’t sleeping with a person.
Plus honestly what cheater would tell you that they are cheaters? It’s a given they’d tell you they aren’t. I think the very fact he kept telling you he isn’t a cheater is a suspect. Who even needs to say that? I’d not give any weight to such words. I never told anyone I am not a cheater. I think it’s obvious. It’s not something someone needs to say. It’s like saying “I am a good person”. Who needs to say that? One is either good trustworthy person or they aren’t. Why even say it?
Words don’t mean much