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Old Feb 04, 2021, 11:42 PM
rdgrad15 rdgrad15 is offline
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Originally Posted by Open Eyes View Post
I had to really sit and think on this one rdgrad15 because what has been trending for a while now is how so many people post their lives on facebook and use twitter etc. This has led to people sharing so much about themselves as more a norm and I don't do that myself. I am a more private person and have no desire to post my private life where others can view tbh. My daughter's piers and younger post a lot on facebook and my daughter has a rather sizable following of facebook friends. Tons of horse people follow my daughter from all over. Many people that have benefited from horses she trained too.

My generation is different, although some in my generation have joined in having facebook. So I had to think about how people tend to share more publicly now. I have my business but my private life is just that, "private". I don't share my private life with customers or when I am conducting business. I don't particularly care for people being able to see what I am doing in my private life. And when it comes to experiencing a death, I keep that private too, just family and a few friends. I guess some prefer to talk about a loss in a more public way. Some need lots of attention, to be all over, I am not like that. And I respect other's privacy as well. The loss of someone is something that I consider private and it's not something I engage discussing unless someone suffering the loss brings it up which tells me they need to talk about it.

Some people prefer to mourn privately. I have noticed though how an important loss I suffered did not stop someone from having me focus on their needs even though my losses were hard on me. Idk, perhaps that's something that some people do without consideration due to this new more public form of socializing.
Yeah that is true. People overshare all the time. I'll be honest, there has been some things I shared way back when I started Facebook in 2009, including deaths. I think deaths are very common to share. But now I keep all that private. Some are more open, others are not. One thing I've noticed is that it appears people are more willing to talk about someone they lost through text or messenger as opposed to face to face conversation.

I've had people go into detail about their grief through text with me but then in person, they don't want to talk about it which is perfectly fine. At least from my observations, that seems to be very common as well. And yeah, I'm like you where I don't bring up someone else's loss unless they bring it up first. Grief is very powerful and if someone desperately needs to talk about it, then they will. Even if it is very brief. So that's why I always let them take the initiative.
Thanks for this!
Open Eyes