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sidony said:
He wants me to keep trying,

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Well, good for your T, but how about you? Could it be that you are not "progressing" in group therapy because you really don't want to be there? Do you (not your T) have goals that you want to work on reaching in group therapy? If not, why are you there? Could it be you are a shy person who does best revealing yourself in a one-on-one format--with a therapist in individual therapy, with a close friend, with a lover. Do we all have to be great at revealing ourselves in public forums? Why?

I think there is a lot of pressure on shy and reserved people to be extroverts in our society. Some of us are introverts and that is an OK way to be too.

A little tale: I am an introvert, somewhat reserved and shy. At least in U.S. society. I once lived for two years in Switzerland, where in general, people are quite reserved. I found that among these people, I was an extrovert! Often, the life of the party, believe it or not. I did not change at all, just the context I was in. And sometimes I felt the Swiss were a little judgmental about my extroversion (as they perceived it). Maybe it's just OK to be the way I am, and let other people take it or leave it.

Sidony, it sounds like the group therapy is supposed to help you to not be so uncomfortable opening up to a group of people. Has your T judged this to be an essential skill? Do you agree with him?