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Originally Posted by Mendingmysoul
I attended a funeral once.I usually observe a lot before I say something.It struck me odd that the widow((husband died)),seemed happy.I was almost feeling guilty at my analysis. I was there a couple of days and observed that the widow was not grieving. I was baffled.She literally was enjoying the attention of people,smiling and laughing and all that.Later I found out she was abused by her husband and she was actually relieved that finally it ended.A lot of visitors knew of it.I was glad that I actually did not say any thing to her like I am sorry for your loss or I know you wish him tobe alive....I just hugged her quietly. Sometimes ,in certain situations a loss is not grieved. It may not be a common thing.But happens.Just wanted to share this.
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That could totally happen. Definitely. Plenty of times
The other thing could happen that some funerals are handled as celebration of life. Celebration of memory of the loved one. Remembering good times. Perhaps that’s how the person wanted it.
Also people smiling and not visibly grieving doesn’t mean they don’t grieve. Sometimes weird things happen, I didn’t cry at moms funeral because I was so frozen in grief plus I was physically tired and stressed with a lot of stuff to deal with during her illness and organizing funeral just a day after her death plus I had to be there for my dad who was an utter mess. I cried before and after but then I was in a fog