I think that I can relate to that. I totally agree. Like I said earlier, I never got married and as of now, I'm OK with it. When my sister was in her 40s (and I was in my 30s at that time) she seemed desperate to get married. Out of the blue a guy called her up and asked her for a date. It was someone that she had gone to school with many years ago. They went out for the first time and it didn't seem like much came out of it. But he had asked her out again some time later and she accepted.

As time went on, they saw each other more but it didn't seem serious. And then he just wanted to go out with her and never get married. My sister sought to try to change it. She wanted to get married. To me, I think that the main reason she wanted to get married was so that she could quit her job that she couldn't stand and have children. It turned out that my parents and I didn't like him and saw some red flags. She gave him an ultimatum to get married. He caved in. She had asked my parents and I about getting married to him and we disapproved. But then she asked other people and they told her that she should marry him. And so she ended up marrying him.

They adopted kids in their 50s, just starting out with babies at that time. That was a little more than 30 years ago. And now, after both having great paying jobs and pensions, they are over $100,000 in debt. The kids, now young adults, seem messed up. When my sister talks to me, it sounds like something's wrong, but she would never tell me. It strikes me as a "train wreck" at where she is. So I'm not impressed with what has happened.