So Sorry you're going through. It seems like you've tried and still are trying to do everything you can to save this Marriage. i Hope and Pray that things will improve and that they will go well regardless of what path you take. Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @NewPathBayArea, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!