Sweetie, I went through the same thing with my mother. The only difference was that she wasn't a do gooder who abused me behind closed doors. She pretended to be a caring and concerned parent to others, yet mistreated her children in private. I have so many bad stories about my mom. She was both emotionally and spiritually abusive. During my last years in high school, she thought the world was ending due to the economic recession. Because of our strange beliefs, she tried to convince me not to get married and start a family after high school. She also tried to make my decisions for me even as I was coming out of high school. In reality, she never believed in me due to my disability. My maternal half sister was always her favorite child. But, she was bad to both of us at times. With my mother and some of her family, abuse and isolation is considered love.