Ok.

In the SAFE program which is specifically for SI, they are not allowed to talk about SI. They talk about the feelings, the needs, etc associated with the behavior, but they do not talk about the behavior.

Why? For a couple of reasons. (1) there is some literature showing that SI can be "learned" and that is how/why the majority of teens today are starting. Their friends SI, so they try. While the "learned" type of SI is still a mental health problem, it is not necessarily associated with a mental illness. (2) Some people talk about SI as "bragging" or as trying to "impress people with how much they are hurting." (3) Some believe that once the SI has occured, the only thing that should be discussed is the feelings associated with it, not the act. Because the act has occurred and it should not be reinforced.

Personally, I think if you are talking about your behavior, it is probably not appropiate in that group. If you are talking about your feelings, etc then it is appropiate.