It's understandable that you feel stressed and need to vent. We all like to feel we have a degree of control, even that elderly woman you are taking care of. It's not uncommon for someone elderly like that to forget their limitations and get up and walk without their walker. My mother did that, and even got up at night to go to the bathroom forgetting she was limited. This is what contributes to elderly people falling. Our brains form deep patterns of navigating and much of that is engaged subconsciously without much thought. It's rather quite easy for the mind to forget the body is older and it's harder to do things one used to without thinking about it. It's also common for someone to get angry and frustrated when they become consciously aware of their physical limitations.

Think about how freely you move around at your age, so many things you do that you don't think about. Now picture waking up and your body is suddenly old and you can't do all you do anymore, you see the mind is the same in so many ways, it's the body that begins to fail the most. Actually, ShadowGX, if you lived in that woman's body for one week, you would look at your own life VERY differently. You would appreciate being able to drive, to be able to work and even have a chance to think about what else you may do instead of what you are doing now.

It's actually very common for an elderly person who is losing more and more control to wish to pass in their sleep. It's normal to experience the frustration of slowly losing one's self. It can be VERY hard to accept the path this woman is heading down. She isn't pushing you away on a personal level either, it's the fact that she is requiring more assistance that is bothering her. This is especially hard on a person that was independent and happy to be just that. It's not all that different from how you feel having to move home and not having the privacy you enjoyed when having your own space away from your parents.

This woman most likely defied what doctors thought because she was strong willed. Actually, you should give her credit for making it to her age of 82. She hung in there for thirty years despite having health challenges. Can't blame her for getting frustrated and depressed about having to live in pain and experiencing less and less control.

Moving home is hard, hard to have to share space, hard to do that for both you and your parents.