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Originally Posted by TunedOut
This has happened to me and I assume most people have experienced this (some more than others). When I do feel this way, I think I am currently doing a better job analyzing why I feel this way. Was it because I am defensive or hurt about the feedback? Was it because they can't handle stress because of their own fragile state so, for their sake, they shouldn't be told? I credit my faith with helping me be less defensive and more compassionate about how my words are effecting others. I credit my MH medications with helping me be less impulsive (ie--I am doing a better job of thinking before I speak and am able to keep more of my thoughts completely to myself). I still have days where I can be too talkative  but I am not as talkative as I used to be.  . Also, I think some people are just better "sounding boards" than others--it is a talent they have but I now try to be more careful about taking advantage of this talent of theirs.  |
I agree. Sometimes when we analyze how we dealt with something, we may realize that it wasn't necessary to vent or open up, or we may realize that we opened up to the wrong person who just may not be able to handle it. Not saying the person is bad, just saying that some people have a harder time being a sounding board and hearing someone else open up can make them uncomfortable. I've known people like that. They weren't bad people, they just weren't the kinds of people I'd open up to due to them not being able to handle it due to their own problems.