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Old Feb 09, 2021, 02:24 PM
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Originally Posted by Mendingmysoul View Post
Yep,I do feel guilty sometimes.I did have a tendency to overshare.Used to talk much and can go on tangents about different things. I realised the listener can be distressed or much annoyed as that can be too much to process for them.I am all about changing myself to a better version of myself.I strive everyday to improvise. I am working on that.These days I do not share much with anybody.Sometimes there is an intense need within to share.I give myself suggestions "please,Jane stop.""Please,Jane don't. "I tell myself this repeatedly (not loud,but in my mind).
Sharing is good,but we should be careful with whom to share,because the wrong kind of person can use it against you later.I think that is why the guilt comes to mind.We later wish we didn't share that secret .Fear based guilt.Just sharing my opinion.
Yep I totally agree. I have overshared in the past too, although I am much more careful now. And I agree, sharing it to the wrong person can hurt you. I never thought that fear based guilt can contribute to those feelings but it makes sense. You may share something, even with a close friend, and then wish you hadn’t since now they can use that against you if the friendship turned sour or they weren’t a good friend in the first place.
Thanks for this!
Mendingmysoul