I haven't had a "good ending" with a T--an abrupt ending brought about by me with ex-T and a drawn-out attempt to fix things with ex-MC that concluded with us terminating right at the end of a session. We'll see what happens with my current T (had a bad/abrupt ending due to a rupture, then I ended up going back a couple weeks later, and it's now been 18 months since that). So maybe I'm not the best to advise on this.

But what I'd suggest ties into what Una said. I know you likely feel some pressure to make it a "perfect" ending and to work through/address every conflict or misunderstanding you've had in the past 10 years. But that puts a lot of pressure on you, and, I imagine, on your T. Could you try to just move forward from right now? Not go back into the past so much. (Though I'm sure I'd be tempted to do the same.)


Think about what you might want to sort of wrap up your work together. Could you maybe try to focus on what you've achieved through working with her, like your accomplishments in therapy? To discuss where you are now v. where you started? And sort of also honoring the good parts with your T vs. focusing on the negative?