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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty
I had a T that I had to end therapy with. She ended up getting MS and wasn't able to continue seeing clients. I had been her client for 10 years at that point. It was very hard to say goodbye because I was very close to her and very attached. In the end though I made the decision to find a new T because she couldn't be reliably there for me. She stayed with me until I found a new T. So there were a few weeks where I would see a new T and then see her or usually just talk to her on the phone because coming to the office was too much for her. The last session was unbelievably hard. I cried (sobbed) the entire time. It was awful. It was good to have a proper goodbye but I was so incredibly sad at having to say goodbye to her. I couldn't imagine never seeing her again. Even now, IDK 3 years later, 2 and a half, something like that, its still painful. I was definitely way too attached.
I like that you'd like to end with an acknowledgement of what you have come through and meant to each other. Maybe you could write her a letter expressing your emotions? I made former T a card and I sent her an exact replica of a little mouse stuffed animal that I would often take to therapy. It was a good way to end.
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That sounds really painful. It also sounds like your former T cared about you a lot and tried really hard to ease the transition for you. It’s hard not to get attached.
I am still undecided about further therapy. On the one had therapy is always such a freaking mess and eats up so much energy. And on the other, well, depression is a chronic relapsing/remitting illness for me and I’m trying so hard to stay moderately sane.