Things are random. But when good stuff happens it’s kind of nice to feel that happened for a reason. No harm in a fantasy about “meant to be” when good stuff happens. It’s a fantasy. It all goes out the window when disasters hit.

My daughter is getting married to a wonderful man. She is a widow. Her late husband died in an accident. There was no reason for him to die, he obviously didn’t die so she could meet her fiancée and get married again. It just how it played out. But it could also play out that she’d never meet A or never meet anyone to marry again or meet some other person. Some things happen because we make it happen and some just randomly occur.

PS same as werewoman I work with vulnerable populations. Things didn’t happen to them for a reason. No reason