Wow, Jello, that sounds like a lot of new rules to take in all at once.
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MzJelloFluff said:
3. not allowed to ask for reassurance of any kind

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Do you mean you are not allowed to ask for reassurance during your sessions, when you are face to face with your T? Why not? What kind of therapy is that? Aren't you supposed to be learning to ask for what you need (within reason)? Asking for reassurance sounds pretty reasonable to me. According to his weird rules, is he allowed to give you reassurance as long as you don't ask for it?

I'm trying to think if I ever overtly ask T for reassurance in my sessions. I know he often gives it, but I'm not sure I ask. Like I will say, "the divorce is going so slowly!" And he will offer reassurance, "you're doing fine, there is no timetable." Or I will say, "I feel so abnormal because I do X," and he will reassure me, "lots of people feel the same way, that is a common response." So he gives lots of reassurance, just about little statements I make. But I don't ask him for reassurance, he just provides it naturally.

Jello, are you asking T to provide a type of reassurance he does not feel is therapeutic and does not provide of his own volitoin in therapy? Reassurance that is fundamentally different from the little examples I gave above? Because if it's just stuff like I wrote above, I think he is being really withholding.

I'm afraid I can't understand this at all, Jello, so all I can offer are hugs.