There is too much pressure to get everything right and this is how our educational system is set up. There is so much praise for those who manage to get everything right which creates self esteem challenges for individuals who don't JUST get everything right. It's more important that students learn to ENJOY learning instead. What our system teaches is "anxiety" and that's where a lot of social dysfunction is created. It becomes a job to learn instead of being something enjoyed in "self". Often this collecting things about someone that can be used to hurt them is actually something TAUGHT. It's much better to TEACH our children to develop a passion for learning. If that is focused on the most it can build self esteem instead of anxiety and depression where a child begins to feel overwhelmed if not getting everything right.

And then these individuals try and use their own children to make up for whatever they themselves did not accomplish. I have noticed this a lot while raising my own daughter where I saw parents push their children for what they themselves wanted instead of focusing more on what their child wants and needs. It's no wonder so many struggle when it comes to venting frustrations and then feeling it's wrong or not really taking an actual interest when someone shares a need. There tends to be lack of understanding how to be authentic and genuine and imperfect.