That sounds painful, but promising.

Funny, more similarities to xT situation (sorry, can't help but see everything through that lens), the whole "you're constantly finding fault" and "no, you started it" thing, and also that you had kind of mirroring experiences here, in this case encountering a previously unseen side of one another.

Of course, she as a therapist can be reasonably expected not to freak out if the client shows a side she hasn't seen before, whereas you as the client can't. But apparently you got your point across in the end, so here's hoping that it'll stick!

Seeing it summed up like this, yes, this is probably a thing. xT experience again, large part of why our relationship was so rupturous was probably that she only just took over the position partway into my therapy when we met (at the day hospital place we met), in a setting unfamiliar to her, and there was a considerable degree of fumbling involved.

I guess, trained professionals they might be, but experience is a huge part of of their expertise, so out of ordinary situations like this might easily bring forth issues they're not as prepared to handle as their usual.