Sorry, i didnt mean to be unsupportive. Honest, i wait to say something to you until i think i have a different way of looking at the situation that might be helpful. I usually forget to say anything supportive at all. I KNOW you get all the stuff about it not being logical, and holding opposing feelings at the same time.

Now im thinking, not musical chairs, but a teeter-totter. How many people are on that teeter totter? What else is on it? (That list of things she does is pretty heavy!) How can she "replace" you if you are opposite her? Not saying i can answer these questions.

I think youre right, it IS about commitment. Who is committed to whom, or not?