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Originally Posted by GuiltyandConfused
I am in the same boat as you are. Our marriage is on the rocks because of this as well as several more underlying issues. Basically, I am a bad wife and mother. I am not emotionally connected to my husband and kids and is more open and loyal to friends. I have been emotionally neglected as anchild and as my therapist and I have worked out, I can’t nurture when I had no proper “training” to nurture. My husband can’t seem to get this as he also had a bad childhood but came out of it emotionally okay. I am stuck as well and completely relate to how you feel.
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Alot of people are raised without a good nurturing role model. It is nothing to be ashamed of. I disagree that it is natural to women just as chivelry is not natural to men. If I lack in a quality my partner desires and they ask politely I will read a book on it and practice it. You can also ask them what specific actions they feel they are missing from the marriage. If they still aren't satisfied, well now I have a new quality about myself and they can go "nurture" themselves.