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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
Sounds like he was never taught how to spend time ahead of time to think about doing something special on a holiday. It could be growing up things were done last minute or no one showed him how to plan gift giving. You LIKE to plan, and that's part of your nurturing and caring instinct. You can't expect him to have that same kind of ability as it is often something males don't learn or are not taught.
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This is an interesting (and valid) observation. So... is it "bad" to try to share how I feel or take the "something is better than nothing" approach.
...and I know for sure that his family wasn't very expressive. Despite his parents being married for nearly 50 years, they don't really DO holidays. They're kinda on auto pilot. His dad's show of love is typical 50's "I put a roof over your head and food on the table...: mentality.
My Dad, on the other hand, would just throw a whole bunch of money at the problem then brag about how much he paid for the gift to whomever would listen. That's why the GIFT part isn't important to me.
Breakthrough moment... this is WAY deeper than the gift. I'll just suck it up and be grateful. He didn't really TRY. I'd rather not get anything than an autopilot gift. I feel like it's just a thing he checked off his to do list. How romantic!