I am honestly more concerned that you cannot bring it up. Of course it could hurt his feelings but there is a way to address it nicely. It could be that’s how he was brought up and doesn’t really know better or could be he doesn’t care. I’d not assume. In my opinion things need to be discussed. It’s not really about a gift.

Every time I hear that woman has concerns but is afraid/unsure/unwilling to express it to a man she dated for awhile, it’s a major red flag for me. Probably the biggest red flag

I am also concerned that conversation about love languages didn’t go far, and hum thinking with his member. How old is he?

How is relationship otherwise? Is this the only concern?