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When I was much younger and before I was married my then-boyfriend and I separated for some months. During that time I became pregnant from a man I was dating. But my then-boyfriend had second thoughts about he and I splitting up and made his thoughts known to me. In the meantime, the baby's father opted to be out of the picture.
My then-boyfriend wanted to raise the baby with me. We decided to get married. We raised our daughter together and, a few years later, had a son. Ironically, my daughter and my husband have always been especially close.
As for her biological father, he has very occasional contact with my daughter, just to basically say Hello, how are you. But my daughter fully considers her adoptive father (my husband) her "dad." She's now almost 36 years old.
If everyone in the picture is mature about the situation and never uses the child as a pawn - never - the situation can work out to be wonderful.
Every child deserves to be loved and cherished. It's only our selfish egos that stand in the way of that.
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