I know I may be inappropriately seeking help and assurance here, but I feel I need to work through this problem.

The person I am having trouble with makes me feel pitiful. She doesn't respect my current work/hobby situation, she doesn't respect my personal life choices, and she doesn't respect my civil rights.

I feel bad because I have been emotional have spoken my mind and have made the situation worse. I am not acting in retaliation but I am also not making enough of an effort to get her off my back. Sometimes what I say is also taken out of context.

I work short shifts and I am privately employed and a privy is not available to me during the work day. I work close enough to return to my apartment to use the privy. I am accustomed to taking 5 to 10 mins to settle in, greet my dog, possibly make myself a sandwich and make my way to the privy. Is it crazy to think I should wait until the end of the work day to use my own restroom?

When I go out for errands on weekends and evenings I try not to stay out longer than necessary. So last night I got home around 7pm. I checked-in with my neighbor and then made my way back to my apartment. I took 5-10mins to settle in, started a grilled cheese sandwich, washed a few dishes and sat quietly to eat. After my meal, I made my way to the restroom. The tenant upstairs began banging and stomping around complaining that I did not sit to greet her and ask her to retreat to another room. She is so quiet during daytime hours, I wouldn't know if she was there or not. Am I crazy thinking it is normal for her to be entertaining herself in the evening hours? Should running to the restroom without her permission disrupt her night? If the noise of me washing a few dishes and making a sandwich is that disturbing to her, shouldn't she buy a nice area rug to deafen the sound. Also, I am capable of quietly going potty without her help.

Okay, so now I am pottied but still in my errand clothes. I sit at my kitchen table and start a quiet computer game. Eventually I move to my e-mail and stumble around you-tube scholastic videos. She made such a huff earlier, I thought she may have left her living room area. Am I crazy to believe we can't both be on the same side of the house minding our own business? Well, apparently I am crazy. Because she likes to nap in the evening. I have not heard her watch TV or play music once in the 15 months I've lived here.

So, I kinda feel like I don't really get privacy in my studio apartment side of the house. I try to do my baking, and bill paying when I know she isn't home. I try not to do anything I'm new to in case she can hear me, I don't want her to hear me struggle with something new or reveal a secret I've worked hard to achieve but haven't mastered yet. I am feeling very depressed because of this. I don't play music anymore, I've stopped kick-boxing and I am having a hard time finding a good headspace to read, paint or draw.

Recently, I've been hearing her move around more while I am in my kitchen/eating area. It sounds like she may just be moving from one side of the room to the other. I honestly question if she is using drugs to be able to sit still for so long.

Another issue I have is hearing weird noises which seem very forceful in the middle of the night. I spend much of the day sitting with her cats above me and these noises are different. Maybe she has an exercise machine above my sleeping area, but on other nights it sounds like she also sleeps there. I am very confused about her lifestyle. Her unit is a one bedroom unit, the bedroom being on the other side of the house. So she naps in her living room and exercises in the middle of the night in the same room and also sleeps here too. Well, okay I guess I accept that, except sometimes her noises are sudden and scary and wake me up in the middle of the night.

There is more. My workday starts two hours after she leaves. I set my alarm to wake me 10 mins after she drives away. When I first moved in and until I finally put my foot down, she would wake me up at 6 or 7 AM with loud noises (again possible exercise machine). I only hear these noises when I am sleeping, never in the day or evening.

So, I am having a difficult time because it appears she is asking me to wake up to her schedule, limit my kitchen use to 15 minutes intervals (new kitchen with full range and oven). And spend a full 15minutes in my restroom everytime I go in. The apartment is renovated from a historic house. The bathroom is small. There is barely enough room to stand in there. I choose to do my toilet and sink business and come right out. I make an effort to spend time at my vanity before and after but I really would also prefer to do that in my own time.

I understand she has lived here a long time and the previous tenant was older and probably very quiet. I can't help that I am a young woman and have more needs than an elderly man. I also need to open and close the front door twice in the evening to let my dog outside. Again, this being an old house that is a noise making process. She can't expect me to tiptoe around when she is home. She works normal 9-5 work hours and there is no need for her to nap all the time. And why can't she do that in the bedroom. I worry she doesn't do enough for herself and she is too concerned with what I am doing.

She finds ways to retaliate and sometimes aggressively. I don't have a car so she parks her car in my spot as is convenient to her. This actually makes it difficult for my mom to stop by to bring and pick up laundry. My mom won't complain because she doesn't want hard feelings. But my mom has a bigger car and it is more difficult for her to come and go. Also, her AC unit is very loud and is kept above my doorway into the apartment. It dripped all summer so I decided to request permission to paint and install a DIY awning/tarp to catch the dripping. Every time I went outside she would follow me. One time I was working to fix a corner of the tarp and she walked above me on her deck and dumped rain water directly onto me. I said something and she did it again.

Rust from old hardware drips down outside the deck area, so I put in a flower bed surrounding my deck to protect my dog from walking over it. She complains that I am not qualified to do that. I've made many efforts to keep myself separate from her, but still I feel attacked and very depressed like I can't do anything right or on my own. I am feeling very hopeless.