So Sorry that you have to put up with this. While your Spouse is understandably angry i also understand why you'd feel this way. Couple counseling does seem like the best option but it takes both of you to make it work out. Can i ask you how long this has been going on? if it's been for long it is possible she may be simply getting tired. Try to tell her that you're genuinely trying to change but that you need her support as well if things must improve. Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Lostandneedhelp, your Family, your Friends, your Wife and AL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!