I'm not sure I understand what you are saying. Are you saying you don't like small talk? Also, when you say you get ghosted, is that online on chat sites? I know I can't figure out how to maneuver this site, so I talk once and can't find the same person again.
I don't like small talk either among a whole lot of things that are different about me. Then my therapist after five months of therapy insisted I'm on the autism spectrum. I don't know if she is right, but it sure explained most of my interactions with others.