There are a lot of different ways to get at feeling better about yourself, but I think DBT has helped me the most with this. The built-in validation makes it easier to not hate myself so much. My DBT therapist really likes the , and I've found that surprisingly helpful. I think I was afraid that being compassionate toward myself would make me lower my standards or become an awful, selfish person, but when I actually tried it, I found that that did not happen.