There is a pandemic out there with a virus that can cause death?! How on earth could any T promise when things would be safe?! That is pretty arrogant or at the very least irresponsible.

I would be more upset with that foolish promise than with not being able to meet up. I would understand and respect the 'not meeting up after all' because this is a serious health matter and I would want my T to be safe (even from meeting me and possibility of being infected.. however low the risk) than to satisfy my desire to be with T in person.