Totally agreed with @rive, I know it’s hard and disappointing but I would rather cultivate relations where there’s a mutual care. I know you and your wife are feeling bad because they are your family but you deserve the care you give. Your kids, even more for being so innocent.

I don’t think any family is perfect. As in any group of people, there are tensions, differences in treatment, etc.
I feel reflected with you and your wife and I had a very hard time, even nightmare, felt the lack of affection, but you know....this is their loss. You are happy with your kids and wife and have a lot to offer to them and others who probably deserve it more.

You already did your move, your effort...you have to be proud of you.