Hi, could it be your the person pulling away...from emotions (feelings)? It’s easy to project one’s weaknesses upon another as to (denial) one’s internal pain? One area in which BPD people has is a desire to be close yet push other’s away because the closeness is painful. Parents of caretakers who lack the ability to love, nurture etc. often withdraw from the child, ignoring their needs...the child resents this and will fight against (any attempt of love) this increases hostility, distress and distance with the bonding process. Here develops the VOID. An emptiness which many with BPD struggle with. It last throughout relationships in life.

We rarely get comfortable with accepting affection from others yet the inward heart desires it.

I believe this comes from the attachment issues when we are children and the relationship with our parent. The lack of attention and love develops an absence a void which I’m not sure is ever recovered.

I’m presently trying to understand this myself. Filling the VOIDS. [emoji53]