@Jennifer 1967, I hope your depression eases soon. Sorry to learn that your mother and brother didn't step up to help you out, during this tough time. Can you have a mini meeting with them to discuss some minor chores you need their help with? Maybe put some notes on their bedroom doors with the "To Do". I am sure they love you and to ask for help "for your sake" should hopefully make them realize how a little help goes a long way.