My counselor who isn't a therapist tells a lot about herself, also personal things. As she isn't a therapist she can't discuss or properly handle how that affects me and I don't have any option to switch therapists.

But I still see the value in venting and discussing this here at PC.

I like when a counselor or therapist shares some bits about herself here and there but my current counselor talks a lot about herself. She also refers to things she heard/saw or talk about what did herself in a similar situation.

As I'm a caring person and it's natural for me to show empathy I engaged in her story and what she told me when her mother-in-law recently passed away. But later on I regretted it, at least partly, as when I asked her how she felt a week later she told she didn't answer but began to talk about something else.

She doesn't show any appreciation that I listened to her, asked different questions although this is really not my responsibility to do as a patient, I did it because I care.

She's now had some time off due to the funeral and when I see her next time I won't ask anything about how she feels or how the funeral was. I think she sends double messages, one where she shares like we were acquaintances and one where she shows she doesn't want my questions or engagement.