My therapist shares some aspects of her life with me, but generally keeps her own struggles to herself. Unloading on a client isn't very professional, in my opinion. I understand the fact that you were trying to be sensitive to your counselor's needs, but perhaps she/he was trying to protect you by changing the subject. I hope you can change your outlook about her/his approach as demonstrating a lack of appreciation. It's not really fair to you, or to the theraputic process. Showing empathy is extremely healthy, in my opinion, but the therapy workspace is different than the real world in many ways.