It sounds as if you felt hurt by your counselor not recognizing or reciprocating the caring which you expressed to her, and now you would like to protect yourself from similar hurts in the future? That sounds like a good idea. But whether you ask questions or not I wonder if caring about her may just always be something that comes up sometimes when you are with her. Is there anything else that you can think of that might help you if/when you may feel hurt by her again? It seems to me like it may not be always possible to avoid.