Thanks here today. Yes, you're perfectly right on that. I don't want to feel "useless" as I often do in other situations and by that I planned to refrain from asking questions. During our latest session she did show a little bit more of sadness and she didn't just rush straight to something else when the funeral came up. It wasn't a big difference but at least something.
I agree it's difficult to turn off the caring side of me and I can't do that completely but if I ask less questions it's easier to keep a distance to her.
I'm not sure what to do when I feel hurt by her the next time. I can't talk to her due to her lack of knowledge in those areas and I don't like to bring up complaints. Perhaps you have some tips that come to mind?
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It sounds as if you felt hurt by your counselor not recognizing or reciprocating the caring which you expressed to her, and now you would like to protect yourself from similar hurts in the future? That sounds like a good idea. But whether you ask questions or not I wonder if caring about her may just always be something that comes up sometimes when you are with her. Is there anything else that you can think of that might help you if/when you may feel hurt by her again? It seems to me like it may not be always possible to avoid.
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