I find it interesting to know a little about the relationship/family status of the therapist or counselor I see. Often their relationships seem to be a certain way and during the time I see them I often realise or get to know things that were surprising to me.

As an exemple I've found out, by putting pieces together during a longer period of time, that my current counselor has been married once before and that she had at least one child when she was very young, about 17 or so. She's now in her upper 50s.

I also know she has children together with her current husband and between her oldest and youngest child the age difference is about 20 years.

I find those things surprising as I often imagine people in say their 50s or 60s to have had only one serious relationship (besides one or more less serious ones) and that they have children together with that person. I guess I see them or want to see them as more "stable" than they perhaps are.

I found out about a former therapist that she lived together with a guy shortly, in her 20s, and she seems to have lived alone most of the time since then. I'm not absolutely sure but it seems she doesn't have any children. She's now in her 60s.

I imagined her as someone living in a steady relationship/marriage with at least one child but when I looked her up she has lived in a small flat for more than 10 years and every year that goes by, she still is the only one at that address. Of course she can still see someone but her living like that was a surprise to me. I find it odd to think she (and other therapists and counselors I've seen) perhaps live without closeness, hugs and so on from a partner.

What do you think of all this?