To me, it seems like your counselors or therapists have perfect lives. When the reality is that nobody does. I have never had a therapist who has even come close to even suggesting their lives are perfect. In fact my therapists have been the complete opposite. My T was married right out of high-school and divorced in about a year. They had no children. She had multiple relationships and multiple engagements. One engagement resulted in a son. She always wanted a large family but it never happened. SHE never actually married a second time. Once when discussing my marriage, I disagreed with something she said, her advice was according to the books. She agreed that since she had never had a relationship that lasted more than 2 years, and I had been married for 25. When she passed she had been with a guy for 5 years...her longest relationship.

Current T had her heart broken many times before finally marrying at almost in her mid to late 30s.