Because she refused to video chat, you have every right to believe she is not who she appears to be. Have you seen the show Catfish? Her becoming angry about your ‘trust issues’ in needing verification that she is who she claims to be is how a catfish acts when they are pressed for the truth. They shame you into thinking you did something wrong. You didn’t do anything wrong. You are smart and protecting yourself. Anyone legitimate has a video chat!

You are a vulnerable person because you have taken this so deeply to heart and got so reeled in. These feelings in yourself are something to look into. But, what you are experiencing is not uncommon for someone to feel who has been the victim of a catfish.

I have experienced limerence. What ends it is when there is no more hope for being with that person. When there is no possibility, the fantasy no longer lingers in that longing, holding out hope feeling.