I agree with Tisha, if someone will not do a video chat, it's a big red flag. Yes, there are people out there that get off on playing mind games with others. Often they pick individuals who are still fairly young and niave, it's all about the power that other person gets from this sick game they play.

I am sorry you experienced this, some lessons are painful ones. There are people out there that get off on playing mind games and they learn what people desire and they use these desires to manipulate.