Hey! I’m not sure how these things go.... but here’s my story. I’ve been with my husband for 12 years. He was my first boyfriend and we have a four year old daughter together. I’ve told him numerous times that I don’t want to be with him. He’s severely codependent and controlling. I didn’t really notice most of it.... I could go into a lot more detail about those issues or the issues related to his complete lack of motivation in life. I could explain why I’m unhappy, but that’s not why I’m here. I’m here because I finally told him to leave. It’s a bit complicated because I’m in the military and he’ll be moving back to our home state. He’s been increasingly mean, borderline abusive. He calls me names and has threatened to take my daughter and keep her from me. He gaslights. He denies saying certain things. Overall, I need help setting boundaries and how to navigate this. The times I’ve ended it in the past, he’s essentially acted like everything was okay the next day and I didn’t know what to say. So we would fall into the same routine except I grew increasingly depressed and more confused. He hasn’t exactly been willing to accept no as an answer. This time is different. I’ve been sleeping on the couch, giving myself space from him, but I’m nervous he’ll revert back. He wants us to be “friends” until he leaves. I don’t trust it though. What rules should I have right now? How should I act? It’s hard to look at him knowing I have to watch what I say and knowing all of the insane things he says to my mom about everything. My main goal is for us to be a team for our daughter, but he’s making it so hard to keep my cool. How do I get him to actually leave this time?? I have so many questions and can barely think anymore.