My niece and her husband are both overweight. Her husband is very overweight and definitely at least over 300lbs. He is a devoted husband and an amazing father to their two children. He's an active member of their church. He's a supervisor in his company. He's just overweight. Would we all like to see him lose some of that for longevity of health reasons? Absolutely. But I guess what I am saying is it is the quality of character of a spouse that is ultimately most important.

And yes to the hormone issues, my niece and my daughter-in-law both have Hashimoto's and losing weight, despite both of them being extremely active and healthy eaters, is nearly impossible. (And finding a good endocrinologist is no easy feat either). Best of luck to you.