i agree with the wise and wonderful Open Eyes. You need to focus on yourself and on what you need to do. Have you tried to propose couple counseling to him? Although from what you wrote it really does seem like the problem is mostly on him. You're not responsible for how he behaves unless you cause it somehow. Have you already contacted some sort of lawyer? Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Inneedofpeace, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!