I like listening to my tranquility cd. basically a cd of instramental relaxation music, one of the best things I've baught on amazon. each day I change my clothes, and each day I try to start with a healthy selection of fruit (usually grapes, plums and peaches). I like beauty products, too. perfume is a must for me, and I like to paint my nails red (never any other color). something else I do which is really important is not respond to negative people or negative comments (or try not to). I don't need people like that in my life- people I know who are going to hurt me in some way. sometimes it's hard, (especially when former abusers try to contact you and find out your whereabouts) but I guess you just work with what you've got.