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Originally Posted by divine1966
I think red flags are about the same regardless where you meet people. So we can put together red flags for any kind of dating. Scammers come in all shape or forms, not just online. People typically reveal themselves early on, we just have to pay attention. Sadly when people are desperate for love, they don’t want to pay attention
Red flags: too much too soon. Declaration of love and devotion too soon, wanting intimacy too soon, lacking stability in their life like no place to live (so hope they can move in), telling horror stories about exes and how they did them wrong and how they abused them-share it early on so you feel empathy.
Call or text (typically text) or want to meet at wrong weird times (too late or too early in the day and not on the weekends-likely still in the relationship with someone else or have substance abuse problem-too drunk to communicate or go out at reasonable time), ask you on a date the last minute-other dates fell through, cancel on you more than occasionally.
Tell you right away they feel strong connection like they never felt before- BS, not inviting you over- live with others or something else fishy, appears hot and cold and moods go and down-could be substance abuse issue.
Love bombing you before they even know you well enough, how wonderful you are and how you are the best. Want to meet right away and often and soon or don’t want to meet, dragging it. Asking for personal info too soon. Talks about exes too much, regardless positively or negatively.
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What a complete post, @
Divine. I do really appreciate your input.
And you are very right, the same topic can be applied and this is how it went before internet, I chose online world meetings because people use a lot internet to meet people nowadays, there have been some users writing about this topic, because of the especial circumstances we are living in with the pandemic and because there’s a little difference between both worlds, online you can keep a lie or a facade for more time. So, these are the reasons.
I think you pointed it out very well, when things go to fast in a relationship is something to take into account. I wanted to stress it out from your post but each point is to consider.