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Originally Posted by MisterPaul
Or maybe he's a cool dude you're going to reject because of a "red flag" you've heard about in some st*pid podcast.
No offense, but I think people are too complicated to have the same criteria for everyone. I don't want to be unsupportive! The guy may be a player who's working you, or he may be pretty cool person. It's not black and white. We should learn how to verify the stories we're offered instead of how to detect "red flags" - GOD, I HATE THAT PHRASE.
EDIT: Again, I don't want to be unsupportive. I honestly believe that phrase "red flag" is dumb. I may be wrong.
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How in the earth someone is gonna reject another person only because (s)he saw a single red flag. But, it’s something to take into account. Isn’t it?
Any information you can get with, the better.
Of course, I agree with you that each case is different. But, there are some...call them how you please, warning signs or whatever, alarm bells...that can help you to avoid a bad relation or being a prey of a scammer.
This is the same as the term “toxic people”. There’s no such a thing per se. There are toxic behaviours and we may all be toxic for one person and not for other.
It’s kind of talking in general. For example if a person you have been knowing online for months and (s)he’s reluctant to do a video chat it could mean different things. (s)he lied on you and is a scammer or have something to hide or maybe this person is too shy. It’s up to you how you decide to handle the situation but at least, there’s a warning sign to consider.