Ladies, I hug ALL of you!!!!!!! I have come to the conclusion that we stay until we are forced to realize that no matter what we do, how hard we try, how much we pray or hope, our situation will not change.

I also think that we believe that our partners are capable of changing, and hold on to the hope that they will. Love is not something you can turn off and on like a light switch, and once you love someone, I think you want to believe that there is good in them.

I finally had to accept that my husband is a grown man who has to make his own choices, and determine the way he wants to live his life. Knowing he has the potential to be an amazing husband is not enough. He is damaged, but it's up to him to fix the damage. Being in a situation that forces me to stay living with him is hard. I would have walked out the door with my two children and the baby in my womb the minute I discovered he was deceiving me again, if only to try and reduce the anomisity and tension they have felt.

Women are "fixers" and care givers, and I think there in lies part of the problem. But we deserve what we give in return, and we most definitely deserve to be happy.